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anoldneighbor wrote on Aug 15, 2008 2:57 PM:

" I was Paula's next door neighbor in Chicago. I moved there right before starting high school. Paula's kindness was apparent when she walked over and introduced herself the night before our freshmen year. She asked if I'd like to walk to the h.s. with her on our first day. She was always well-meaning and kind. Do not judge her based on the sad incident until you have walked a day in her shoes. No, nothing justifies the murders but one should not never judge what one knows nothing about. "




Heart broken to have lost two people who were dear to me, Paula & Ryan wrote on Apr 15, 2008 10:38 PM:

" Tim Parmeter tormented Paula, his wife, by degrading her, having affairs with multiple individuals, taking advantage of her generosity, and finally abandoning her. He had never wanted a child. She had to push him to have a relationship with the child. She snapped mentally and could not go on living. In her altered state of mind and skewed thinking she believed the child would be safer with her than with an uncaring, unpredictable, self centered individual such as Mr. Parmeter. Too bad she could not have held on longer to see the final result. "




eye opener wrote on Apr 14, 2008 8:05 PM:

" pod people you wrote that you hope that not judgemental is not on the jury? well i certanily hope that none of you are. all of you have passed judgement of some kind. let the poor woman and her child rest in peace, and let the justice system work.

this mans biggest concern should be the GOOD LORD HIMSELF. "




Pod People live in Safford wrote on Apr 14, 2008 4:31 PM:

" 'Not so judgemental' says "the girl was very willing to participate". That actually is the plea of all pedophiles.
You are a sick individual for saying that. He was an adult who crossed way over the line.
Let's hope that you are not called to be on the jury!!!!!! Let's hope you are not allowed to bear children!!!

Ferrin~ you are right on!!! "




skeiss wrote on Apr 14, 2008 12:52 AM:

" This whole story is as funny as it gets! "




Agrees with Ferrin wrote on Apr 13, 2008 10:57 PM:

" Bwana....I did not know her, but do know that when your husband cheats, you feel like your heart is torn out of your body. And she did mention his cheating in the letter. Whether it was with the minor or someone else that she assumed it was with. I do think it is a terrible shame and
Ferrin did not say he judged her. But would it all have happened had he been faithful?? I think not.
Also, Since you are probably reading the D&C's.... In the bible, The sixth of the ten commandments reads, “Thou shall not kill." "




Onewhoknows wrote on Apr 13, 2008 9:50 PM:

" Ferrin, oh dear. I pity that the only defense of your views is insulting me. Why ask questions that you know are ridiculous and hypocritical? Were YOU there? My point still remains. People are WAY too judgmental and know WAY less than they think. I can assure you that I am aware of things that many are not but, regardless, if Mr. Parmeter did anything that he is accused of or anything that you ASSUME he did, it in NO WAY justifies a SUICIDE OR MURDER. Calling me an idiot won't change that. "




Concerned wrote on Apr 13, 2008 4:20 PM:

" Amen, to you, Phoenician. I totally agree with you. People want to pass judgment onto Paula right away, I think we need to leave that up to God, he's the one that will do the judging when this is all over. We need to stop judging people here and let the legal system do the job. I personally knew Paula as well and she was a very bright, smart, generous woman. It is a shame that it had to end the way it did. I just hope and pray that people will learn from this experience. "




a Phoenician wrote on Apr 13, 2008 2:01 PM:

" As someone who knew Paula (Tim's wife,) I would just like to say that she had a lot of good qualities. She was fun, intelligent, and generous. She had to endure a lot in her marriage to Tim. I'm not excusing what she did, but I feel like no one realizes that she was a a very special person who doesn't deserve to be defined by the horrible thing that she did. "




bwana wrote on Apr 13, 2008 1:22 PM:

" "She will go to hell" Saith Lord Ferrin!

That's mighty presumptuous of you don't you think? Hell is for those who want to condemn others to it.

As for the tragic events in this story...It is all very sordid...people should be talking about what a shame it is...instead of condemning them in God's stead. "




what? wrote on Apr 13, 2008 11:03 AM:

" lets not mix this incident with his wife selfishly muderding his child and killing herself. The Thatcher police could probably agree after reading the letters she left that there wasn't any mention of him having an affair with a minor let alone anyone. "




Safford Bloggenstein wrote on Apr 13, 2008 8:18 AM:

" To not judgemental, why don't you try following the law. If a 38 year old man has intercourse with a 16 year old girl, the girl is a victim simply because of her age, at least in Arizona. No matter how consensual, the law is there to protect young girls from sexual predators. So to say the victim needs to be punished is a horrribly heinous thing to say. What if the girl was 14, or 8, would you still be asking for her to be punished as well? "




not so judgemsntal wrote on Apr 13, 2008 7:22 AM:

" What ever happen to innocent until proven guilty? Let all the facts come out, first before the judgement begans.
This man is already going to punished. His wife and son is dead. Maybe she took her and the babies life because she new about this. Either way he will pay. If guilty he needs to pay for what he has done. But so does the girl who was very willing to participate. "




Ferrin wrote on Apr 13, 2008 12:48 AM:

" "One Who knows"....What do you know? Were you there? Were you taking pictures like Mr. Hume? Yes, she did commit murder and she will go to hell, but her husband fueled the fire. Did you read the notes? What do you think about the marriage vows???love, honor and trust until death do us part...Did I miss the part about screw any teenage girls, cross the line as a teacher and an adult????
Can't wait to see you on the stand! You are an idiot.

Yes, God Complex, we are of one mind!!! "




God Complex wrote on Apr 12, 2008 7:35 PM:

" Ferrin- how dare you pass judgement on this poor innocent man- didn't you hear his wife killed herself and his child? Nevermind the fact that he was screwing a 17 year old in the gym bathroom while his wife was killing herself and their son- he's a good guy! He's the only true victim in this whole ordeal! Can't a man get a little bathroom action with an underage hottie without everyone passing judgement? Must be because he's not Mormon.... "




Onewhoknows wrote on Apr 12, 2008 5:03 PM:

" Ferrin - glad to see that you know the whole story. It is sickening to me to see those that are so quick to open their mouths and pass judgement on a horrible situation
(all around, yet they know ZERO about what really happened and why. For whatever Mr. Parmeter decided to do,
NOTHING can change or justify the fact that a deranged female committed murder of herself and an innocent child. All those with God-complexes should really just keep their traps shut about this. "




Ferrin wrote on Apr 12, 2008 12:14 AM:

" According to ones action, so shall be the fruit. This story has more drama than a movie. You have an affair with a minor, your wife kills herself and your son. You go to prison. This should be a lesson to all of the cheaters in Thatcher and Safford. In its most basic sense, the Law of Karma in the moral sphere teaches that similar actions will lead to similar results.
Go rent Fatal Attraction with Glen Close.
"